It’s good to talk
This week I’ve been revisiting the notes of a webinar on women’s health that I attended recently. Various pieces of research are sited which discuss the link between traumatic events in your childhood and chronic health conditions as you get older. It’s fascinating stuff, and no surprise to anyone who works holistically.
Your brain doesn’t forget what it’s been through and if it’s not helped to heal, the trauma can manifest physically.
Many people will find that they seem to cope okay for years if not decades, but then things catch up with them. The stress accumulates over time and can become a chronic problem.
The webinar also notes that any stresses in your life – recent or long ago – can all accumulate and take a toll on your health and wellbeing. It’s worth noting that even happy or positive event such as arranging a wedding or a new job can still add to your stress load.
Talking about the things you’re going through, or things that you lived through as a child can often be the first step in the healing process.
It’s not always easy to talk
I think it can be quite difficult to talk about traumatic things that have happened to you. Sometimes it can take a while to even realise that there’s something that you need to talk about. Especially if it happened a long time ago.
Sometimes you know you need to talk but you just don’t know who will listen or who you can trust.
Not only do you need the opportunity, but you need to know that you will be listened to and that you won’t be judged for what you say.
Sometimes it might be too difficult to talk about the actual things that you’ve experienced, but talking about how those events left you feeling can be enough.
You need to know someone will really listen to you
I’m a good listener. New clients frequently tell me at the end of their first consultation that it felt good to talk and that they’d never had the opportunity to talk like this before.
The things that I frequently hear about in my consultations can mainly be grouped into the following categories:
- Issues from childhood;
- Humiliation or mortification;
- Destructive relationships;
These things might have happened decades ago, but they can still be a powerful force.
They might be the cause of anxiety, a feeling of ‘never being good enough’ or a fear of rejection.
Is there something that you need to talk about?
It might have happened years ago, but you don’t seem to be able to forget about it. You might not have mentioned it to anyone else, or perhaps you mentioned it to your GP and all they could offer were anti-depressants or CBT.
I use natural and gentle homeopathic remedies and herbal drops to help you get through whatever it is that is affecting you.
Now might be the right time for you to talk.
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Ps. please remember that I’m not a trained psychotherapist or counsellor. Depending on what’s going on for you, it might be that you need more support than I can give you alone. If after we speak I feel that’s the case, I will be honest with you about that.